AN ATTEMPT TO DEFINE HEART INTELLIGENCE
Defining Heart Intelligence is not going to do justice to what it really is. The closest that I can think of is that it is an intelligence that is as old as time itself. It is a wisdom that is deep and innate and yet so simple that it remains distant for the complicated and yet it is the complicated who need it the most. In order to realize this intelligence, is not about acquiring or developing anything at all. It is really about discovering that which has always been there. The acquiring and developing is what we have gotten really good at over the years. We are inclined to piling things up without the simultaneous clean up that needs to happen. The piling up takes on more urgency than the clean-up, if any. So, we constantly find ourselves back paddling and not completely in charge. Even when it comes to using heart intelligence to do the cleaning up for you,you see it is not about ‘using’ the intelligence or deploying it for an objective that you have contorted. It is not about appointing, assigning or delegating nor empowering and all of that ‘professional’ things that we do to amuse ourselves. This is about taking a step back and simply allowing it to unfold on its own. It doesn’t require any of your ‘education’ or your experiences, in fact that could be the very thing that may become a hindrance for its full manifestation.
The Art of Unlearning
Learning is probably one of the easiest things anyone can do. We can learn without an intention to learn. That’s how subconscious learning is. Learning can happen anywhere, literally anywhere. We have learnt much, a little too much. We have learnt about us from others. Others have taught everything we need to know about us and we have become excellent students. We took it all in without question. There was no real need for questions. We didn’t have to know the truth. Everything went on just fine. So the learning continued. What we had learned was useful to keep us going fairly comfortably. We knew the ropes. We had to survive, so the learning was vital, but not for long because everything changes. Albert Einstein once said, you cannot solve a problem with the same mind that created it and I absolutely agree. Unfortunately, that’s what we do. The lessons of the past become our liability. They drag us down. But we hold on to it. One, because we have grown familiar with them, two, it worked at one time and three, probably the most lethal, we have an emotional investment in them. It is never easy to come to terms with the fact that the very thing that helped you at one time ceases to help you now. In fact, that very idea or solution can be counter-productive and cause more untold damage.
The idea of unlearning is not commonly practiced. It is certainly not very popular. It was never taught to us by our education system which was trained to only pile it on. One of the reasons why it is so, is because of the sheer difficulty of it. We have invested too much of our time in the process of learning. However, the moment we recognize the fact that it is an acquired part of us and it did help us for a while and now it is no longer helping us, it becomes easier for us to simply let go of them. It would just drop away and no longer will have a hold on you nor influence you. So, in conclusion, trying hard to dispose of them will end up being another fight with ourselves. Instead it is better to recognize these learning as not our own and just watch them fall away, which of courses poses other complications and so we never really embark on it.
However, there will be a few who will ask the questions and rock the boat. The recognition of the redundancy of some of these past life lessons will take place. Once the fall away happens, an opening happens, it allows for new learning to take place. A relearning is now made possible. There is a need for relearning to happen. There is a great need for us to look at everything that we have grown accustomed to from a completely new angle. A new point of view is needed. We need to relearn the way we look at life, the way we perceive incidents and events, the way we see each other, the way we see ourselves and everything else that may come with it. It has to be penetrating. It has to penetrate the very essence of life. Unlearning cuts open the subject and lays it out for all to see. Relearning is when you are able to see reality as how it is supposed to be seen.
By Kumar Nagalingam